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Gay Pride

I don’t get “gay pride”. Really, I don’t. And I’m speaking as a gay man. Being gay is as much a part of me as my own sense of humanity. To say that I’m proud of being gay is about the same as saying I’m proud of having a heartbeat or of breathing oxygen. It’s simply part of who I am and nothing more. How does having a bunch of scantily-clad nelly queens or uber-butch leather daddies prancing about on a parade float embody any form of pride?

The days of “I’m here! I’m queer! Get used to it!” have been over for a long time. How about we try “I’m here! Let’s get along!” Or rather, to use a common colloquialism, “you attract more bees with honey than with vinegar”. Being disagreeable for the sake of being disagreeable accomplishes nothing more than alienating potential allies. It’s entirely possible to disagree without being disagreeable. As a culture, we Americans spend way too much time and energy focusing on what makes us different, rather than on what makes us the same.

Yes, I understand the Christian oppression of anything gay. Let’s just say I’m intimately aware of it and leave it at that. Rather than being confrontational and stoking the fires of hate and intolerance, we can show people that gays are just like everyone else: we wake up, we hug our loved ones, we go to work, we come home, we hug our loved ones again, and we go about our lives, bringing harm to no one.

Yes, there will always be Christians like Fred Phelps and his clan; that, unfortunately, is unavoidable. There will always be those who value hate more than humanity. In my experience, ignoring them is the best thing to do; it deprives them of their so desperately sought martyr complex.

In short, be yourself, but don’t go out of your way to rub it in other people’s faces. As someone once said, “Can’t we all just get along?”

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  1. 9/27/2013 | 5:40 pm Permalink

    It’s an extreme swing of the pendulum, and a sense of entitlement that drives some gays to stick it in the face of non-gays whenever possible… just because they can. The comparison to obnoxious OC advocates on my blog is valid.

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  2. 10/6/2013 | 2:40 pm Permalink

    Ok, can I say this without sounding stupid? lets see.
    Vic? your Gay? no! oh wait I never said that. I think my biggest issue who you are was that you were a libertarian before I knew I was one. Who the hell cares about sexuality. I dream of a day when we judge a person by the content of their character rather than how the get off.

    To me it is just such a NON-ISSUE and I think the only ones who care are the extreme elements on either side. The ones we really shouldn’t dignify with our attention.

    but the most shocking thing to me about you, Vic, is….you still Blog? wow.

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  3. 10/6/2013 | 2:42 pm Permalink

    Ohhh I thought of something else… in the spirit of Gay pride…being proud of well… life…can I claim Irish Pride, or Sailor Pride, or beer drinker’s pride…wait those are the same…

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